Episode 10

Trauma - "The Smooth Criminal" - the mindfuck of questioning your own reality

Published on: 25th September, 2021

Dr Ronaye Calvert and Bindi Heit from LIVE Treatment Concierge Services discuss trauma - "The Smooth Criminal" - the mindfuck of questioning your own reality:

  • Definition - 

Gaslighting is a colloquialism that is loosely defined as making someone question their reality.

The term is also used informally to describe someone (a "gaslighter") who persistently puts forth a false narrative which leads another person (or a group of people) to doubt their own perceptions to the extent that they become disoriented and distressed. This dynamic is generally only possible when the audience is vulnerable such as in unequal power relationships or when the audience is fearful of the losses associated with challenging the false narrative. Gaslighting is not necessarily malicious or intentional, although in some cases it is.

  • Exists for a purpose - self protection
  • I am not my trauma - not going to question my own reality
  • Being stuck in a mirror that isn't ours
  • How we hide our own trauma
  • Gaslighting - why we don't recognize we have been traumatised
  • Not a comparison to others trauma
  • Biggest mindfuck is we protect our perpetrators - permission to label it as trauma
  • Allowing others to dictate our experience
  • Validate experience - perpetrator
  • Perpetuating trauma by accepting it - silence breeds permission
  • Self doubt - doesn't look or feel like trauma - our gut always knows.- sacrificing our truth

Songs - Praying by Kesha and Jar of Hearts by Christina Perri

Listen via Spotify playlist - GET REAL with Dr Ronaye

Meditation - Trust your intuition

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GET REAL with Dr Ronaye
Get Real with Dr Ronaye Calvert from LIVE Treatment Concierge Services
Welcome to Get Real with Dr Ronaye - Doctor of Clinical Psychology and Trauma Specialist. Dr Ronaye Calvert is Executive Director of LIVE Treatment Concierge Services.

Live Treatment provides a unique wrap-around approach of concierge services, in-person and virtually, specifically tailored to each client with a level of effectiveness that transcends any other program. In her daily experience of guiding clients to recovery and emotional freedom, Dr Ronaye Calvert gets real to shed light on subjects that have remained in the shadows, with courage and compassion.

Joined by Bindi Heit, International Spiritual Coach and Mentor from Ethical Change Agency with the mission to inspire changemakers and holistic healers to create collective change to make the world a better place through the power of human connection, purpose and podcasts.

It’s time to GET REAL.

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Ronaye Calvert

Dr. Ronaye Calvert is the Executive Director of LIVE Treatment, a Concierge, 1:1, treatment program that creates powerful change around the globe. She earned her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology and has had extensive experience working in the addiction recovery field, disordered eating programs, and the LGBTQ+ community. She has a deep understanding of how personal issues or beliefs may motivate or hinder us and approaches each unique struggle with sensitivity and keen insight. Stemming from her Directorship in prominent Dual Diagnosis treatment centers, Dr. Ronaye Calvert is a skilled Trauma Specialist, leading others to a deeper understanding of working to resolve and grow from histories of emotional, physical, and/or sexual trauma.

Dr. Calvert's personal philosophy is not to help clients focus on what is wrong with them, rather to help them acknowledge and embrace what is right with them, while creating a plan for their personal success.